I think of all the people that are anxiously jumbling for their new year’s resolutions and I feel for them.
The pressure of making a resolution intensifies as we see how the list-makers and goal-setters unapologetically check off on their third day of their resolutions.
And… yet, here I am, at 36 and confused about what I should do with my life when I grow up. Maybe not you, but yeah, that’s me right now.
A resolution seems so unachievable. How could I resolve to do something every single day of the year when I can’t even keep my goal of sticking to a decent bedtime? Or drink enough water during the day?
I get you. More often than not I too question my life choices.
I’d like to share and encourage you today with a confession of my yearly broken resolution and how I was able to learn from it almost 20 years from the time I made it.
You see, I made my parents a promise that I never kept, so then, it became my yearly resolution.
Anxious About The Future
Everyone is a bit anxious about what’s to come. Especially when the new year is starting and we feel that we wasted time the previous year. Or like in my case, wasted time the last couple of decades. We don’t want to make the same mistakes.
I know very well about wasting time and not following through to complete our set resolutions and goals.
A long time ago, I promised my parents that I’d go to college after a year of break but that didn’t happen. Instead, I got married, moved out of the state, and had kids.
So then, many years ago (I don’t even remember when exactly) I decided to make that promise my resolution. But even after adding it to my list of resolutions it never made it to the DONE side of the list.
More than a decade later I finally went back to school. Even after all of that, it’s still taken me even longer to finish.
That made my promise close to 20 years late! See? I know a bit about un-kept resolutions.
This morning I’m sitting at my desk intending to sign up for the last three courses I need to finish my Bachelor’s Degree and I can’t help but feel a bit anxious.
I’m usually not an anxious person but I feel butterflies in my stomach at the thought of the unknown future that awaits me.
It finally seems I will accomplish my revolving resolution, yet it scares me so much.
It got me thinking about why I put it off for so long, and I came to the conclusion of the real reason behind my hesitation.
I’m so nervous that instead of graduating I wish I could continue on to graduate school. It’s not because I really want to but just to avoid what I don’t know.
What?! Why?! It’s simply the fear of the unknown. I don’t know what’s coming so I’d rather stay right where I am. Can you believe that?
How many of you have done this? Will you hesitate because the future is uncertain? I know I did.
My mind raced with an avalanche of questions…
How do I re-enter the workforce with an 18-year gap?! What if I can’t do what my job requires? How do I relate to other adults that have been doing their jobs without interruptions? Most importantly, what exactly is going to be my new job?
To me, all these fears were not baseless or unsubstantiated, and for me, these were 100% legitimate problems.
I was genuinely fearful and sick to my stomach to think that soon I would not be shielded and protected by my home.
I’d be out there in the open and unable to run to my husband when I don’t want or can’t do something.
Fear Can Hold You Back
The motivating force between doing something and not doing it can be attributed to how much power we give to the fear of the unknown.
For me, the fear of what can happen in the future held me back. I was afraid of trying for fear of failing. Wow, it sounds so wrong but I did exactly that.
We are afraid of failing IN THE FUTURE, so resolutions make us anxious.
We still haven’t lived through it and we are already fearful of committing because of the fear of not following through.
Let me clear it up a bit more.
We are fearful of the unknown for unknown reasons!
Really? When you think about it, we are fearful of things that we are not certain of.
We are fearful that the unknown will blatantly go wrong. How much more negativity can we show?
Take On Today’s Fear, Not Tomorrow’s
Most of us are unsure and a bit fearful of what’s to come. We are skeptical of what this new year brings for us. Making plans and then imagining those plans unfulfilled is a feeling that incapacitates us even before anything happens. The what-ifs start dancing in our head and discourage us.
I’ve fought many different giants throughout my life. I’ve believed for many things and exercised my faith countless times as well.
How is it that in this area of my life I refused to let go and let God manage it?
I’m not entirely sure how I was able to oversee this fault and allowed myself from walking in His peace, but I did learn something I want to share with you.Prayer is the only way out from under it.Click To Tweet
Personally, I had to surrender my all and ask for forgiveness when I realized that I was WRONG. Yes, forgiveness because I was holding on to fear and letting it rule over my life when I know very well that He has promised to stand guard over my heart and mind.
I realized that I was needlessly overstressing.
Philippians 4: 6-7 says,
Do not be anxious or worried about anything, but in everything [every circumstance and situation] by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, continue to make your [specific] requests known to God. And the peace of God [that peace which reassures the heart, that peace] which transcends all understanding, [that peace which] stands guard over your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus [is yours].
See, we have the ability to cast all our worries upon God. He can and is more than able to handle any situation.
The only problem is that we needlessly attach ourselves to the situation (our fear) so when we go to Him in prayer, we pick up that same worry we just placed at His feet because we formed an unhealthy attachment with it.
We continue walking with it, and as we feel anxiety over it again we again end up taking it back to God. But then, we pick it right back up when we are done speaking with Him forming an endless cycle of failed goals and resolutions.
The only way to let go is if we, in the place of our anxiety, pick up faith and wholeheartedly trust that He’ll handle it.We can’t hold on to fear and anxiety when we are holding on to faith.Click To Tweet
So, don’t worry about tomorrow when it’s not here yet. Each day comes with its own battles that can be resolved as they come.
Let’s do today all we can for tomorrow, but stop when there is nothing else to do.
Then, when we can’t do anything today anymore, then it’s time to let it go.
What is there to do today? Make a list of your fears and answer genuinely to each one. If they are valid then take them to Him and pick up faith in their place.
If they are not valid then shake them off and go get your resolution checked off.
Everything Is Possible For God
Your resolutions can be achieved if you believe that God holds your future in His hands.
He converts our failures and uses them for our benefit when we make Him the Lord of our life. So, what is there to fear? If greater is He who is within us than him who is in the world?
The Psalmist said,
I sought the Lord [on the authority of His word], and He answered me, And DELIVERED me from all my fears.
He delivered him from all his fears! That is a statement to live by.
Seek Him and He will answer. But not only that, He will DELIVER ME FROM ALL MY FEARS.
So, go on empowered this January and walk boldly knowing that you have the perfect companion walking with you. Delivering you from ALL YOUR FEARS.
What are your resolutions for this year? Tell us how you will achieve them with the help of the Lord.